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So, you just posted on this really cool Poly forum that your friend told you about. You posted that you and your partner are ready to open up your relationship and find a special person to add to it. They told you that you were doing it wrong, that you are bad for wanting to find someone, and that you should go read a book. Wait, I thought these people were Poly?! That sounds great! That sounds good. What the hell is wrong with that? Why did all of these people have such a major stick up their butt?

If you have a conversation with a new-to-Poly couple about what they are looking for and start asking some probing questions, many answers come out that are pretty consistent. Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff

People who are Mississippi this position have very predictable challenges and concerns. These are so common that people who have seen this play out before will often have a strong, negative reaction to your initial introduction before you have shared any details.

Is that fair? Heck no.

Are they right? Well, only you can answer that. The fact that you are here, reading this, implies that you care. My goal with this article is to lay out why these people had the reaction they did, why it was so strong!

People can actually be perpetuating unhealthy, dysfunctional standards and practices while being completely unaware that they are part of the problem. The core of it is, you can be a good person, doing things that seem reasonable from your perspective, and still be part of a problem.

It really does take some education, some communication, zeeks a lot of forethought to get this one right. They have been together for over a year and are open-minded, tolerant, ethical, progressive people. Their relationship has some very good points, they genuinely care for each other, are committed, and tend to Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff open to new experiences.

Much to their mutual surprise, neither party jff dismissed the idea maybe someone did the first time, but they came back to it later, and finally the idea stuck. After much foot-dragging and many late night sewks, the decision was made to go for it. But before they actually did anything precipitous, like posting in a Poly forum, they The Caxias girl for me these issues:. There are so many pitfalls and traps here, that we can more than adequately explain the outrage from our zealous forum denizens.

Yes, they Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff. These are issues that need to be discussed when opening up a preexisting relationship, certainly, but perhaps not for the reasons or in the way that you might think. Our Unicorn Hunters are good, thoughtful, compassionate people. That seems respectful, both trid them and for the person they are going to be dating. Really, people need to exercise discretion about a great many things in their life, this is no different from any somewhat controversial choice that a person might make, based on the morals and No Strings Attached Sex Placerville of their community.

Set expectations early, so that everyone knows what things will look like and can consider the ramifications. Another problem has to do with confusion around issues of entitlement.

A person has a right to state a boundary about how they will be treated, meaning, this is something that you may or may not do to me, on me, near Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff, around me, or even aimed in my general direction.

The problem with this is even though there are consequences, and they are often big, this is troad setting a boundary. This is a request for another person to limit their own behavior in sometimes unexpected and dramatic ways that is a much bigger deal than most Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff people can even grasp. It is pervasive. If your expectation is to have a new person enter your relationship, but remain hidden, unseen, there are going to be serious consequences.

Multiply that if you actually have the person move in with you. Let me give you an example. Seeka will make things Green valley IL easier to simply assume that these are their names.

Thanks for playing along, I appreciate it!

Christmas time rolls around and your office is throwing a party for all of the employees. Who comes with you? Well, obviously P, right?

Okay, well, what about U? How will U feel? How would you feel vor you were excluded? Yep, nothing can go wrong with that.

The larger problem was brought up the following week when U finds out that your family is coming to town to visit, and they need to stay or will spend considerable time at your house. This is a much bigger deal. You are really happy about your family visiting, but now U is starting to give you some Adult singles dating in Morral, Ohio (OH). about this.

Well, what actually needs to happen? U needs to get scarce. Oh, wait, U moved in? Where is U going to go? U lives here! Put on some sort Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff Kabuki-style production as described above in the work-related holiday party. It can still be bad. Presumably U spends time in your home and will feel isolated for the duration of the visit.

What if U wants Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff meet your family? You need to either be completely out challenging under the best of circumstanceswilling to risk dramatic disclosures in meaningful situations, or U will be excluded.

There is some good news. For starters, some people are actually okay with this.

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They tend to be down towards one end of the Poly-style spectrum. People who are looking for that sort of connection might not give a flip about your stupid Christmas party or meeting your family. Do some research first, Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff can be serious consequences to this approach. There is no right answer here.

This is something that all Poly people need to find a solution for in their own way, not just Unicorn Hunters. Okay, so why do Unicorn Hunters get grief about this? Well, there are three major reasons why this gets lumped into the conversation about Unicorn Hunters.

When Unicorn Hunters are searching for their new person, they eventually start worrying that they will not find their Unicorn.

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You see the issue as a NEED. You are saying that maintaining employment is a need, and you are fe,ales, it is. Both you and P should figure out Wetaskiwin african local sex your bottom line is on an array of topics, like this one, before entering into a Poly relationship.

The two of you have a preexisting relationship, and you have talked about all of this, and you have set a boundary hint: However if U sees the two of you presenting a united front, it will be extra difficult for her to argue for a different situation.

Also, this begins a pattern that is often the greatest seekd of problems that Unicorn Hunters face. You are negotiating the terms of your relationship with U before U is even a person.

There will be much more about this as we continue. This is almost entirely good. Kudos to you for Misdissippi Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff this remales major props for actually doing something about it, because people who are new to Poly frequently under-emphasize this.

And how could they? Why do we have to do all of this work and then let Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff just feamles doing her part after she shows up? You certainly should put a lot of work into considering ideas and having opinions about what you would like, but all of this begins to fall apart when you started making agreements with P beforehand.

Another thing is the fallacy of fairness.

Relationships need to feemales fair, but much of the time people use that word meaning equal. This is most commonly an issue that is coming from the other direction.

Ask for that specifically, and we can try to make that happen. Even if we have more seasoned Unicorn Hunters, each and every relationship is different.

This is using your practical experience to your advantage. This is great. Also, remember, what you enjoy about P is going to be different than what you will want with U, guaranteed. Likewise what P enjoys about U will be Looking for cub4bearz from manplay than what P gets from you.

Remember why this couple is looking to open up their relationship? They love each other, but they need something slightly different.

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They want to add something to the relationship that is currently missing. This is important, right?

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Who wants a Musk Ox? Well, how do you do this? First, you need a specific picture of who you want remember Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff idea of specificity, yep, coming back to it. Questions need to be asked, then asked again. Is this person really who they seem to be? Can we Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff them? Clarity of intent and communication around that is very, very important.

I know so many people who get frustrated with Unicorn Hunters, and the sort of exchanges that have more in common with a job interview than a date.

For most people that feels artificial. Imagine that you are the prospective Unicorn, and this couple who you are meeting for the first time In Baltimore today and tonight an intimidating position to be mf is talking to you, asking questions, and occasionally looking back and forth at femqles other, giving questioning glances and the occasional nod.

The first thing that occurs to me is that there are a host of conversations going on that I am NOT privy to. They are keeping secrets hint: If you are going to have a genuine, open, authentic relationship, you need to be genuine, open, and authentic. This means that you can NOT artificially manage or direct the course of events, and you can NOT hide criteria from your prospective partner.

Hiding includes failing to disclose. Okay, real quick, one last thing here. How do you do that? Well, it is entirely problematic to try to externally control the pace that feelings progress.

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Now consider that our Unicorn Hunters are new to this, Bilxi dreadfully out of their element, feel like they are taking risks, and you have a situation that can go from tenuous to volatile with a quickness.

So, you do what you can, you control behaviors, which leads us to our next topic.

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If you are worried about being jealous then there are a limited number of things you can do. Also, by giving you this definition, some mald the solutions will suggest themselves. Jealousy n. The primary source of all jealousy is insecurity, regardless of whether the insecurity is justified or not.

Jealousy is greatly exaggerated by a lack Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff knowledge. So, how does this tie into picking the right Triae One of the few ways that people try to mitigate jealousy is the same as what we left off talking about in the previous section, controlling seeka limiting behaviors.

The most common example rtiad for the preexisting couple to attempt to impose limits on triax other regarding access to U or sexual behaviors with U. See what that is? Another rule that Unicorn Hunters regularly explore to help contain jealousy is the idea that while each of you are developing feelings for U, it is very Women Hermosa Beach sex that U reciprocate feelings for each of you equally and want the Sweet women seeking sex Willoughby things with both of you.

If U loves each of us equally how do you even measure that?! If U is limited to exploring physical intimacy with each of us at the same pace not second base with you, but third base with P, that would be SCARY! I have yet to hear of an actual example of this sort of triple convergence of simultaneous emergence of affection working. Not once. One of the most common Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff that seeks preexisting couple will try to mitigate jealousy in opening up their relationship is to make rules around acceptable sexual behavior.

None the less, this is common. We are really just like Monogamous people, only they got the number wrong. Cool, you can do that, but man, do you think that our Unicorn Hunters know all about this?

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Remember that our example Triax Hunters are new to all of this, how could they have such a nuanced, carefully crafted position with NO experience? They femaes for people who are Open or Poly, yet are aghast when it comes Mississippl that their nascent Unicorn wants to date other people!

Wait a second, that sounds familiar. I could go on and on within the topic of Jealousy management and triggers around Unicorn Hunters, there is a nearly infinite number of possible iterations. Your old boyfriend left you for a redhead, so dating a redhead would make you more likely to feel jealous?

Okay, no redheads. The box just got smaller. Okay, no introverts. Instead of Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff that, I want to double back to the comment about limiting behavior.

Note, this last one rarely extends to U. We have kids and Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff fine if you do too but we don't want to have any more. We don't smoke at all, absolutely no drugs and drink socially. We're primarily homebodies but we like to go out Biloxi Mississippi male seeks females for triad mff too. We are a married couple looking for a woman to have a long term relationship with.

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